How to get child to stop picking nose

Many kids have habits that can be downright annoying. Four of the most common are:

• Nose picking. Nose picking appears to be a habit that, although it usually begins in childhood, may actually linger into adulthood. If you find that hard to believe, consider that a 1995 study of adults found that 91% picked their noses regularly and about 8% of them reported that they eat what they pick.
  
• Nail biting. If nails chewed to the nub are familiar to you, you’re not alone. Nail biting or picking is one of the most common childhood habits. An estimated 30% to 60% of kids and teens chew on one or more fingernails. And, occasionally, a child may also bite his or her toenails. Boys and girls appear equally prone to the habit in earlier years; however, as they get older, boys are more likely to be nail biters.
• Hair twirling. If one of your kids is a hair twirler, odds are it’s your daughter. Most kids who twist, stroke, or pull their hair are girls. Hair twirling may appear in early childhood as a precursor to hair pulling, either with or without hair loss. But many hair twirlers and pullers stop as they get older. For those who don’t, simple behavior modification can help them break the habit. However, for those who start hair pulling as older kids or teens, the habit is harder to break and may be a sign of anxiety, depression, or obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD).
• Thumb sucking. Kids’ preference for thumbs as the finger to suck is thought to be the result of the thumb coming into contact with the mouth during movements they made an infants. Some kids also suck their fingers, hands, or their entire fists in addition to, or instead of, their thumbs. Most thumb suckers are younger kids and up to half of 2- to 4-year-olds suck their thumbs. Many kids suck their thumbs to calm and comfort themselves. But frequent or intense thumb sucking beyond 4 to 5 years of age can cause problems, including dental issues (such as an overbite), thumb or finger infections, and being teased.
  

Although these habits may bother or even worry you, relax. In most cases, a habit is just a phase in the normal developmental process and is not cause for alarm. These habits usually go away by themselves.

Habits may develop as entertainment for a bored child or more commonly, as a coping mechanism to soothe an anxious child. The next time you see nail biting or hair twirling, try to recall if your child has recently had a stressful experience. If so, the behavior might be your child’s attempt to relieve tension, much as you would by working out at the gym. On the other hand, some kids engage in habits when they’re relaxed, such as before falling to sleep or quietly listening to music.

To help your child break a habit, use gentle reminders when your child does the habit. Praise your child when he doesn’t. Praise will go a long way towards stopping habits. For example, you can say, ‘That’s great. I can hear your words clearly when your fingers aren’t in your mouth’.

The good news is that most habits go away by themselves, usually by the time a child reaches school age, because the child no longer needs it or outgrows it. But if your child’s habit is getting in the way of everyday activities, has become embarrassing, or is even causing some harm, you might want to take action.

For example, sucking thumbs or fingers is normal and common. But your child might be sucking fingers all the time. If this is getting in the way of talking or eating, or your child is being teased by peers because of it, it could be time to break the habit.

Some tips for breaking habits:

• Gently remind your child about the habit. This approach can be used with kids as young as 3 or 4 to help increase awareness of the problem. For example, if your child sucks on a sleeve, you can say, ‘Please don’t chew on your sleeve – it’s a bit yucky’. Or “I don’t like it when you bite your nails. It doesn’t look nice. Could you try to stop doing that?” Most important, the next time you see the nail biting, don’t scold or lecture. Punishment, ridicule, or criticism could cause the behavior to increase.
• Involve your child in the process of breaking the habit. If your 5-year-old comes home crying from kindergarten because the other kids made fun of his thumb sucking, understand that this is a way of asking you for help. Parents can ask their kids what they think they could do to stop the habit or if they want to stop the habit. Come up with some ways to work on breaking the unwanted habit together.
• Try to encourage your child to do something else during idle times. For example, you could encourage your child to play with a toy that has moveable parts while watching television. Maybe try a hand game like ‘Incy Wincy Spider’.
• Try to find out why your child is doing the habit, and suggest an alternative. For example, when if your child is a nail-biter, instead of saying, “Don’t bite your nails,” try saying, “Let’s wiggle our fingers.” This will increase awareness of the habit and may serve as a reminder. To occupy your child’s attention, try providing a distraction, like helping you in the kitchen or working on a craft.
• Reward and praise self-control. For example, allow your little girl to use nail polish if she lets her nails grow. Or every time your son refrains from sucking his thumb, reinforce the positive behavior by praising him and giving him a sticker or other small prize.
• Be consistent in rewarding good behavior. If you fail to notice good behavior, it will disappear over time. The new, positive habit must be firmly established before the old one will disappear.
• Habits can come in pairs, like sucking a thumb and pulling hair. When you stop the thumb-sucking, the hair-pulling might also stop.

For the best success, it’s important that kids be motivated to break the habit. And because habits take time to develop, they’re also going to take time to be replaced by alternative behavior, so be patient.

What are habits?

A habit is a pattern of behavior that your child does over and over again, almost without thinking and your child doing it usually isn’t even aware of it. But while kids may be blissfully unaware of a habit, their parents aren’t so lucky. Often children’s habits might bother or frustrate you, but usually they’re nothing to worry about.

Children’s habits usually involve touching or fiddling with parts of their faces or bodies. Sometimes children are aware of their habits, and sometimes they aren’t.

And if your little one usually has one hand stuffed in the mouth and the other entwined in the hair, don’t be surprised: Habits tend to happen in clusters.

Some common habits in children are:

• sucking a finger, thumb or dummy
• biting or picking at nails
• twirling and pulling hair
• picking their nose or sores
• picking at their lips or the insides of their cheeks
• chewing objects like pencils and clothing
• grinding teeth.

However, some behavior might look like a habit but have a medical cause. For example, if a child suddenly starts pulling or hitting an ear and is also cranky, it might be because she has an ear infection or is teething.

Habit or tic?

Tics aren’t habits. Tics are muscle spasms that cause jerky movements that seem out of the child’s control. Examples include repeated blinking, face twitches, and arm or shoulder jerks. Sometimes tics are caused by conditions like Tourette syndrome or by stress.

A child might be able to stop a tic for a short time, but it will come back when the child stops thinking about it. If you feel a tic is distressing for your child, it’s best to seek help from a health care professional. Your doctor is always a good place to start.

When is a habit no longer just a habit?

In some cases, a habit is the result or the cause of a physical or psychological problem. For example, a nose-picker might be uncomfortable because there’s actually an object stuck in the nose. And the habits themselves can cause some medical complications, such as:

• nosebleeds in the nose picker
• ingrown or infected nails in the nail biter
• dental problems, such as malocclusion (the failure of the teeth in the upper and lower jaws to meet properly), or thumb or finger infections in the thumb sucker

A habit may no longer be a simple habit if it negatively affects a child’s social relationships or interferes with daily functioning.

Older kids who constantly suck their thumb might be experiencing significant stress or anxiety. If kids are the subject of teasing at school or have difficulty talking because they won’t take their thumbs out of their mouths, the behavior has gone beyond a simple habit. Kids who pull their hair out may have trichotillomania, a condition that results in hair loss. And habits that are in response to obsessive thoughts may be a sign of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD).

However, most habits don’t cause any significant problems and tend to improve as kids get older. But if you’re concerned about your child’s habits, talk with your doctor.

What causes a habit?

Experts aren’t always sure what causes a habit, but do know that they’re learned behaviors that usually provide a positive outcome for the child.

Habits can be comforting for children. Sucking is a good example. As toddlers leave behind the baby stage, habits like thumb-sucking can be a way of soothing stress or anxiety.

Sometimes habits happen because children are bored. That is, the behavior is just how children entertain themselves. For example, children are actually more likely to bite their nails while watching TV or doing nothing at all than when they’re feeling anxious.

Sometimes habits start for practical reasons but keep going when the practical reasons have gone. For example, young children with colds often pick their noses to clear them. Children who keep nose picking even after they’ve learned to blow their noses probably have habits.

Some habits may be leftovers from infancy. In infants, thumb sucking is a common self-comfort behavior that has pleasurable associations with feedings and the end of hunger. So it may linger into childhood because of its positive associations.

Or perhaps the explanation for your child’s nail biting is in your mirror. Do you bite your nails? Studies suggest that nail biting may have a strong familial or genetic component.

Other kids engage in habits to attract attention or to manipulate their parents. If kids feel that their parents are ignoring them, they may engage in the annoying habit because they know that it will get a reaction from Mom or Dad.

You’re a role model for your child. If you see your child starting a habit, perhaps ask yourself whether it’s one of your own habits. For example, nail-biting might be passed on within a family.

NOTE: some toddlers seem to get comfort from some common but slightly unusual behavior, including body-rocking, head-rolling and head-banging. Most children stop this behavior by the time they’re five years old.